“Alphabet: A History” Past Posts

I’ve just re-posted blog posts from a series called “Alphabet: A History.” I have to thank Christine Hyung-Oak Lee for getting me involved in this series many years ago.  Go explore.

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How Blue the Sky Was

This post was originally published on Sept. 11, 2011, on a previous incarnation of this blog.

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The sky was so, so blue that morning, like it had been painted in Technicolor.

One of my classes showed some interest in talking about 9/11.

I assigned a few essays, but I realized, midway through class, that all of the works were in the year following.  There was nothing new, with perspective.  The readings were pure reaction from people like me.

I heard about a plane that crashed in the World Trade Center, Tower 1, before I left for work.  Reporters didn’t have a lot of information and it seemed like maybe a pilot lost control of a small plane.

“I have an idea,” I said.  “Post links to articles, videos, etc. that you find or have read.”  The minute I said this, I regretted it.  They seemed intrigued.  I wanted to take it back.

Traffic was slow.  It always was.  A plane flew low.  National Airport is a few miles away.  There are always low-flying planes. Sometimes they go fast.  I didn’t think anything of it.

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Up over at XOJane today! “”How I Learned to be Taken Seriously — and Stylishly — As a Young Woman in Academia”

“How I Learned to be Taken Seriously — and Stylishly — As a Young Woman in Academia”

My first piece for XOJane.  I have a lot of thoughts about the many themes covered–from owning personal style to classroom politics–but I figured I’d start with this and see where it goes.

And yes, because I know you’re wondering, 1994-Sassy-reading-me is squeeee-ing because she just got published on 2014-Jane-Pratt’s site.

On Action: Resurrect, Revise, Rebirth, Renew

I began a Blogger called “Heather’s World” a little over ten years ago.  I wrote some really funny, sad, insightful, angsty stuff there; I was 24 and floundering in the world.  I met some fellow bloggers (because it was a smaller group back then) with whom I am still friends.  But, since then, I have recreated, renamed, re-platformed, etc., a bunch of different blogs–essentially recreating myself–but not really–every time.

You see, I do this thing where I reinvent the wheel all the damn time–even on a daily basis, when I’m teaching.  It’s a problem.  I also save everything… so I have a file for every first day class I’ve taught, every semester, since Fall 2006.  (No joke.  Are they all the same? No.  Are they pretty similar?  Very.)  I also do this thing where I have Great Big Ideas and then don’t do anything about them and give up and have really awesome pity parties about failing when I have not even begun to act.  The past two years have featured a lot of hurt, a lot of pity parties, and worse, a lot of inertia.

But…I’ve been thinking.  I’ve been reading.  I’ve been doing some serious self-evaluation.  I’ve hopped back on my bike and back on my yoga mat.  Seriously.  In the spirit of action, I have created yet another blog after abandoning one about a year and a half ago.  But this time, I started going back through the saved texts of past blogs. I wanted to see what stories I could find in those posts, spanning ten years.  I’m thinking about the young writer then and the still-sort-of-youngish writer now.  I’m thinking about what I can write about, rather than the things I can’t.  Most importantly, I’m writing–even if it’s total gibberish, it’s something.

Bear with me while I edit some old posts, write some new ones, play with the theme, and get this beast up and running.  “Alphabet: A History” will return (yay!).   You can follow the blog via all the usual social media ways, WordPress, email, or just by dropping in.

Welcome, friends, old and new.

Alphabet, a History: O is for Otis (in the Scotch Broom)

I’m copping out a little, but I recently found this post from my very first, now-defunct blog. It’s too good not to share.  I’ve done some minor editing, but it’s pretty much the same.  What you need to know, in terms of setting: I lived at home post-graduation for about three years; my 2003 silver VW Golf was named Otis (and hence why the 2012 charcoal one is Otis, Jr.); and, if you haven’t figured it out yet, my family is crazy.

May 16, 2004: Otis in the Scotch Broom

…I got home about an hour later than I predicted yesterday. I had planned on helping my mom and grandmother plant some scotch broom (a relative of the heather plant), and a mini crepe myrtle in the front garden. I came home, apologized for running late and getting stuck in traffic. So, I go out to help. My mother, incensed that I promised to be home at noon and came in at one, tells me to fuck off. I tried to reason with her and she goes off. I mean, we started a tug-of-war in the middle of the front yard with a heavy old shovel. And instead of being the rational good adult I tend to be, I lost my shit. 

I tend to cry when I’m angry. So I start sobbing… the big, breathless type with tears that blind you.

I grabbed my keys and got in my car. The driveway was blocked by my grandmother’s red Oldsmobile. I revved the engine as my grandmother repeatedly tried to “reason” with my mother and me. My mother comes over and tells me to get out of the car and just help. They kept saying, “What are you going to do, leave? You can’t leave. All you had to do was do what you said and apologize.”
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N is for Name

“Why don’t you change your name back?” I asked my mother. “You’re not married to him anymore.” I was six, I was eight, I was twelve. I asked this question often because I hated my last name. My father was out of the picture.

“I want our names to be the same,” she said. Later she would explain she once read that sometimes children felt separated from their mothers if the mothers had a different last name.

“I don’t care if you change it,” I said. “Why would you keep it?  He’s a jerk. He’s not even around. Let’s change mine, too.”

“It’s not that simple.” Well, it probably was that simple, but I wasn’t going to win that battle. And thus, my surname stuck.

I remember once telling a friend, “If I ever get married, I’m taking the guy’s name. I can’t wait to get rid of ‘McDonald’.” Back then, I saw it as the ultimate freedom—changing my name to sever all ties to the past. (Changing it would have the added benefit of no more stupid jokes about farmers and clowns.)

As I entered my twenties, and my friends began getting married, I didn’t think of how that question would apply to me. I’d ask friends, “Why are you taking his name?” I was fascinated by people’s reasoning on why they did or didn’t adopt their soon-to-be husband’s last name. One would think I would have thought about my answer carefully, given my recent curiosity and past desperation.

Nope.

We were at dinner with some friends a few weeks or so before our wedding. (It’s possible we may have already been married.)  One of them asked, “Are you changing your name?”

“Um.” I put my fork down. John and I stared at each other.  We hadn’t ever discussed it.  Our friends immediately began backtracking, realizing this was possibly a touchy subject as it is for some people. We are not those people.

“Hadn’t thought about it.” I paused. “No.” I went back to eating before thinking I may have done something horribly wrong.

“Sorry. You want to talk about this later? We probably should….”

He shook his head. “It’s fine—Hadn’t thought about it either. I think I just assumed you weren’t going to,” he said. “Besides, ‘Heather K.’ sounds kinda weird.”

I wrinkled my nose. I thought briefly about bringing up the issues involved in why I would or wouldn’t change my name based on the socio-political issues inherent to doing so, or on the concept of one family/one name, or the history of cultures with matrilineal names. Instead, I nodded.

“Totally weird.”

And that was that.

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Joining 80,000 wordsFog City Writer, Righteous Indigestion, and others, in working through the alphabet with short, memoir-like pieces. 

M is for My Mother (Yet Again)

“I’m finally getting published.  I even won a contest.”  The phone was silent.  Breathe, I told myself.  I held my breath.

“That’s—that’s great.  Wonderful,” my mother said.   “What’s the essay about?”

It wasn’t a question, it was a demand, an accusation.

“It’s about when J. was sick, and food… and stuff…” I trailed off.  Writers know how terrible this question is when it is an honest question, much less a leading one.  I sat down, waiting.

“Oh.”

How much weight can one syllable hold?  How many meanings can it have?  Relief, disappointment, suspicion all in two letters.  It wasn’t about her.

“Wow, well, that’s great.  That’s really great.  I am so proud of you.” I wanted to believe she was trying her best. I did the best I could, she always said.  Again, there was silence before she spoke.

“Yeah, so I had a really bad week at work.”

“Oh?”

In writing, as in life, it’s all about my mother.

Just about every story and essay I submitted to grad school workshops had elements of her, or was about her.  Almost every single critique—probably around 60 over three years—said, “I want to see more of the mother.”

But how much space must I give her?  How much space must she take?

Joan Didion wrote, “That is one last thing to remember: writers are always selling somebody out.”  The part of me my mother won’t let go, that I won’t let go, feels guilty.  But I don’t think Didion is saying that to the writers.  It’s a statement of fact, and it’s a warning to those the writer knows.  You may be faced with the brutal truth of your actions and their consequences.  The writer must face hers, as well.

You can’t write about me.  You wouldn’t do that to me.  That’s not fair.  That’s not yours to tell.

Yes, I can, and I will. It is, in fact, mine to tell.

Joining 80,000 wordsFog City Writer, and others, in working through the alphabet with short, memoir-like pieces.